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Sometimes you really can’t see the forest thru the trees, but other times you can’t appreciate the trees throughout the forest. Endlessly we search for that perfect mate. Someone who peaks our interest, lights our flame of love or possibly flatters the other parts within us that like to be coddled. Other times its as simple as needing that perfect outfit for an interview or a once in a lifetime party or event that we feel could change our lives in some out of the ordinary way. Each day we frantically engage each new reason to strive for that which we feel is attainable and that might reconcile our basic lives to something more, something which makes us happier and even more fulfilled. There is nothing wrong with reaching for the stars, however, if you often find yourself looking to external sources to compliment your lifestyle then you may be barking up the wrong tree.

When you look in the mirror, do you truly see yourself for who you are? Maybe when you look at yourself for more than a minute in the mirror you find that you are looking at the same person you’ve known all your life and yet you are engaging and responding to yourself in the second person. Maybe you find your reflection asking itself, “Is this me that I see?”. The world can and will always find a way to look at you differently than you see your true self, but how many of us take the time to really dig deep despite the ongoing day to day nuances and find our true self? I believe that the trees are just as important as the forest and the individuality of each breathtaking Oak or Cherrywood leads to the distinction between a flourishing forest or a petrified one. Rain forests require ample amounts of rain to maintain its eco-system, while petrified forests require litte to no substance at all to maintain its environment.  It seems as if we only attribute a miracle to something well out of the ordinary that we feel is inexplainable or well out of the grasps of achievement of us common folk. I assert that this is not the case.

Dictionary.com defines a miracle as an effect or extraordinary event in the physical world that surpasses all known human or natural powers and is ascribed to a supernatural cause. Since supernatural means: of, pertaining to, or being above or beyond what is natural; unexplainable by natural law or phenomena; abnormal; why can’t this perfectly describe how we view what it takes for us to do the things we need to become better people in this lifetime. If the majority of the world believes it’s just another day to work, to do chores, to manage the finances and take care of the family, then why can’t we see ourselves in an extraordinary view if we not only manage the traditional aspects of our lives, but also we manage time for our own personal positive self-evolution? If what we do and who we are can demonstrate that we strive to understand each component of ourselves – including genetic makeup – and we use the power we learn and achieve in harnessing the will, spirit, talent, physical appeal, and support mechanisms in a positive way, then why can’t that be a miracle too? After all, life is full of choices and we don’t necessarily always make the right ones now do we?

We agree that life can have its ups and downs but sometimes we have no clue about how we succeeded in an endeavor when we believed all hope was lost. We don’t even give ourselves even half the credit for some of the most miraculous tasks we accomplish for ourselves or others, whether the chips were in our favor or completely down. But if we understood our position in relation to the forest and stepped back from it once in a while to save and view the tree of self, then re-entering the forest dynamic with branches reaching towards the sky would no longer have a limit. For in our own centered self we could feel the energy and aspirations of who we are within us and no fear or challenge would keep us in a distracted state that would compromise our unique ability to survive & overcome, orlimit our ability to see and to be seen in a positive way at the same time. We could then select with percision, the elements needed to continue to grow. As we require less and less to remain strong and grounded, we could then have the ability to share our nutrients with the rest of the forest, each tree being aware of itself, its purpose, and knowing, sharing and supporting the rest of the ‘forest’ outside of the typical societal edifices. Everything you are, you create, you nurture, you achieve with the strongest manifestations in your heart, mind and spirit, you can find within yourself are all your own personal miracles.

With the knowledge of self (love) and infinite possibilites opening up based on the way you manage your life decisions and relationships you create and re-create the miracle of being. You know longer have the need to be another tree, nor have so much distaste for other trees who may not be in agreeance with your own personal values or method of self-evolution. You have that ‘ah-ha’ moment where you realize that some trees are meant to continually grow and provide food or shade while other trees may have other purposes like being cut down for firewood. When the fires of the world are quenched and you are still standing in the wake of the remaining forest and truly can recognize that it really is a miracle that you are still standing tall whether fully or partially in tact, the truth is clear. You are truly your own greatest miracle and all that you do will account for the miracles that you can accomplish in your own life and the lives of those around you. Just remember, to truly be the miracle, you have to not be afraid to be extraordinary and to focus on the positive qualities within yourself that help to make you stronger, wiser, happier, more grounded. fulfilled and peaceful. Many people may look at you and attempt to veer you off course or straight out side-swipe you because they see how great you become when you invest in knowing yourself in and out – but don’t be angry.

Have patience in allowing yourself to be planted, nurtured correctly, and seek out new positive change and opportunites to evolve but don’t worry if others can’t evolve with you! Then sit back and be thankful that you have realized the greatest miracle ever to be discovered by anyone of your time – you discovered the miracle of you! Namaste.

If I were a mountain top, I’d care not to be frozen,
for the ice is cold and hard, the seasons never chosen
those that try to climb my peaks with earnestness and pride,
with pick and rope, & hearts of hope are still more likely to slide
rather I, be full of steam, of heat, and molten earth,
for as I reach toward flaming sun, to an island I give birth.
To create from within – a burning heart- re-kindled with each flame
A beauty to be controlled by none
but loved just as the same

Today we not only celebrate the the inception of Queenology.com but we embrace our own ability to seek out the right kind of change. To remember where we came from and keep sight of where we are going. To raise ourselves up to the light and remember who we are eternally and help the light within to shine even brighter than it ever did. We are here to de-thrown cliche’s and live up to our own positive expectations. We accept the role of being more responsible for our own actions and with gladness in our hearts we become our own greatest work of art. Through all of these things we realize that it is by looking back into ourselves that we find the knowledge we need and bring our dreams into focus by harnessing all elements of who we are and evolving. Welcome All who search for answers, all who share great wisdom, all who believe that it is within each of us to be the best we can be and thru that journey we change the world – starting with ourselves!

Setting yourself free….allowing your original you to just be. No attempting to fit in a fancy little box. To pick open all of your heart’s precious locks. To wiggle outside of the lines of life a little and open your eyes to much more than the middle. To stretch, then reach, to raise, to grow – I’m Queen of my life cause my heart confirms it’s so. I’ll climb, I’ll sing, I’ll start to run, my wings stretched out – FLyiNg beneath the sun

It’s another year and it’s ripe and fresh with potential. It’s similar to the feeling you get when you’ve bought a new shirt you know you’re going to look fabulous in, or the excitement of opening up a package you’ve been waiting for. You are buzzing inside and feel strongly that THIS time it’s all going to work out. When you set your magical New Year timer you hope you will accomplish all of your physical dreams…until of course you realize it’s already December again and the whole year has fizzled past you & you start counting your accomplishment.  All is not lost because naturally you can find something, even if it seems small in comparison to your other original goals, to congratulate yourself on accomplishing . Wouldn’t it be nice to bottle that initial New Year passion and intensity up so you could sip from it all year? I have some items on my list that I call resolutions but understand that I use that word as a reference to a goal and not a specific time to accomplish the goal. Here are a few New Year un-resolution tips that help keep me motivated all year long.

1. Sure it’s a new year but that doesn’t mean I have to start goal prepping right before or on New Year’s day. I have a habit of not usually wanting to do what everyone else does and when they do it, so make sure your start time is a fun time for you & not based on what other’s are doing.
2. It really is true that slow and steady wins the race so don’t go crazy making a bunch of really large commitments all at once at any given time. Break it up (i.e, small, medium, and large goals.) You can start any of these goals at any given time and may find that you accomplish more of the small one’s over time, or more of the larger one’s in shorter time frames than the smaller one’s. The point is to switch up how you go about accomplishing the goals and don’t put so much stress on just one aspect of the goal like the date or time. Sometimes those pieces of accomplishing the goal lend more stress than necessary just because you’re trying to make yourself obligated to perform in an unnatural state.
3. Make it fun! Find ways of creating goal inspired games or something relative to your own personality that will not only strike right in your heart but will reward you, in a positive way, as you continue onward.  Let’s say you pay yourself a dollar amount for every pound you lose on your weight loss goal and at the end you buy youself something fabulous like a mini-vacation or new wardrobe when the goal is fully completed. Not only is it a great self-reward system but you win double when you get to the finish line.
4. The hardest thing about accomplishing goals sometimes is not just the motivation but the support you receive from others. Know that although people care for you, they may not be the best people to support you in any goal you wish to achieve, no matter how big or little the goal is.  Let go of this frustration right away as it will not lend to the positivity or your goals. Accept that the one’s closest to you may not be able to help motivate you and see that you are the main one responsible for your own motivation. If you have to find other people with idea’s of accomplishing your goal (maybe they’ve already been through what you’re about to embark on). You can also consider finding others preparing to do the same as you and you can start your journey together.

No matter what, do NOT rely on outside influences to keep you motivated – rather allow these resources to inspire you if they can but know that YOU are the co-creator responsible for managing every resource available to you and getting you to your final  destination. Accept full responsibility that whether you are successful or not, it is all within your own ability to decide. Don’t keep judging yourself and how you accomplish your dreams by other people’s standards. You can use ‘other people’s standards’ as guidelines to formulate your own timeline’s but don’t make guidelines that are like giant impenetrable forts that once you commit to the goal you find you’ve locked yourself inside of something bigger than you realized & now are confused and frustrated that you may never achieve what you originally planned. Finally, learn to go with the flow. You may try to lose 10 pounds and only lose 6. Don’t get disappointed by missing 4 pounds since those pounds might be what’s keeping you in that bra cup you like so much. Embrace it and move on, at least you started something and made an accomplishment on what you started. Embrace and be proud of every aspect of success whether you come in a little short or hit the homerun out of the park!

When is thinking too much bad for your health? I’ll tell you when…it’s when you think so much that even your own words start putting you in circles! You’re supposed to talk yourself through things for greater clarity, not talk yourself into an even bigger circle or deeper trench! Sometimes we don’t accept the fact that we may not have enough information to truly make an informed decision and out of our own haste we either make the wrong decision or get frustrated with our ability to not bring our own guidelines of closure to an issue. The point is to make the best decision follow a few guidelines to improve your situations chances:

1. Don’t be afraid to walk away from the issue by distracting yourself with something more positive and fun and then come back to the topic when you are in a more positive state. Try not to make decisions or make full statements in the heat of the moment.
2. Every friend you know may have similar traits but different perspectives on dealing with issues. Limit yourself to a couple of outside opinions on the topic. This will help you see the issue from a different level but limit the amount of external influence that goes into the solution you choose.
3. If your issue concerns another person, look deeply into the eyes of the person before you proceed your verbal assasination attempt. Before make any comments try to truly remember how you about this person & dig deep to feel if what you are about to say would hurt you if the other person was saying it.
4. No matter what decision you make, there are always possibilities that you will not please everyone. Be confident that if you made a decision that was genuinely fair to all involved, there will not be one majority winner in the situation.
5. Don’t second guess yourself or your solution after you truly know that you have taken the time to make a choice while in the right frame of mind or positive emotion; you have used a substantial amount of supporting information to cover logical analysis of the issue, you’ve considered comments made by trusted people in your life, and you’ve used you’re own intuitive reasoning concerning all involved parties.

As you go thru this process more and more it will literally take seconds in your mind to go complete mosts of these tasks.  Not only will it help you to say less of the things you didn’t mean to say to people you care about, but you’ll see how much easier and beneficial it may be make quicker better decisions that don’t come back to snowball you and cause future pain. The less pain we inflict on ourselves, in any form, the less we inflict on others and the more peaceful we all can be, to ourselves and to others! So try these tips to navigate out of an endless Thought Circle and onto a new path of better choices in which you’ve navigated the terrain in a positive & constructive way.

The Empress Directive or E.D. is dedicated to an overview of monthly content, thoughts and/or theme’s presented throughout Queenology.com. All opinions and view’s expressed within the site or in the E.D. will be inspiring and attempt provoke conscious thought. Although trends, the nature and characters of people or situations are taken into context when creating articles, we are fully aware that almost anything can be debated with enough creditable information. Again, the intention & views of Queenology.com will never be to embrace the ego in it’s quest to place feelings of superiority at the fore-front of your mind or thinking process, but rather introduce topics that promote awareness and provide substantial information to begin that personal research related to the topic of interest which may assist in some form of positive growth.  Evolving in this fashion is not to say ‘Look who’s better than who now that I have tons of information available at my fingertips’, instead it’s more humble and reflective of ‘Look at what I’ve been through & how this knowledge has helped me grow. Now I am better prepared from life & less willing to back down from it because of its challenges.’ You can accomplish peace & happiness with the least amount of stress & effort, however, in the beginning it will take time & patience with yourself and with others to get to the point of happy and truly sustainable life management to which you can move forward consistently with these experiences & accomplishments you’ve made.